What a year 2015 has been. I have finished, but not completed law school! Completed my first legal job, and was offered my second legal role just before Christmas. I have lost a few friends and also made such an awesome group of friends. I have learnt the importance of community and fellowship both at my church and with my family. I have lived in three different parts of London, Bethnal Green, Bow and now Plumstead. I have been able to celebrate 5 years of dating the most wonderful man and been able to call myself “auntie” to two gorgeous babies and a sphinx cat. I have travelled to Italy Rome and Naples, two places I have never been before! I have overcome challenges and obstacles thrown at me this year by Gods grace and love – which I have come to know in a whole new way this year. I am so excited and hopeful for all that 2016 holds and so thankful to God for all that has happened and all that is yet to come!!
As somebody who has struggled with the concept of happiness, and overcome a real rainy, low season this past year. This might be my new favourite quote, stumbled across it whilst browsing the web.
Don’t get me wrong, I think happiness is great. I live for the moments where I am smiling, chatting and laughing. But I do not think happiness is the be all and end all, at the end of the day, it is an emotion and just like the author of this quote states, we only grow through pain and sorrow.
I like the idea of focusing on wholeness, next time I feel down or upset, I can focus on the growth that develops from the fleeting feeling.
I actually attack the concept of happiness. The idea that—I don’t mind people being happy—but the idea that everything we do is part of the pursuit of happiness seems to me a really dangerous idea and has led to a contemporary disease in Western society, which is fear of sadness. It’s a really odd thing that we’re now seeing people saying “write down three things that made you happy today before you go to sleep” and “cheer up” and “happiness is our birthright” and so on. We’re kind of teaching our kids that happiness is the default position. It’s rubbish. Wholeness is what we ought to be striving for and part of that is sadness, disappointment, frustration, failure; all of those things which make us who we are. Happiness and victory and fulfillment are nice little things that also happen to us, but they don’t teach us much. Everyone says we grow through pain and then as soon as they experience pain they say, “Quick! Move on! Cheer up!” I’d like just for a year to have a moratorium on the word “happiness” and to replace it with the word “wholeness.” Ask yourself, “Is this contributing to my wholeness?” and if you’re having a bad day, it is.
In between applying for jobs so that I can progress in my Charity Legal career and preparing for my last exam I still find that I have a lack of structure in my life. This has enabled my nurturing side to fully unleash itself and boy I am not complaining about it!!
Over the past few weeks, I have cooked numerous dishes and yummy treats.
After a few too many compliments and words of encouragement I decided I shall try and blog more about the what I make.
Blueberry and apple eggless loaf
The recipe is so simple and all in all it took around 45 minutes to bake and 20 minutes to prep.
I measure in cups.
1/2 cup of oil
1 cup of soy milk
2 cups of plain flour
1tsp of baking powder
1tsp of bicarbonate soda
1 large cooking apple
5 generous tsp of 100% blueberry jam – feel free to add real blueberries
1 1/2 cup of brown sugar
Pre heat the over to 180 degrees
Grease pan you are planning to place the loaf in by spreading a small amount of cooking oil around it
Mix sugar and oil in mixing bowl, then add chopped apples and blueberry jam
Afterwards add flour, baking powder, bicarbonate soda
Slowly mix the milk, oil and vanilla essence to the mixture
Place the mixture into the greased pan and place in the oven
Bake for 40 to 45 minutes and dip a knife or something similar to check that no the mixture has fully baked
Once baked leave the cake to cool for half an hour before eating and sharing with friends!
On my 20th Birthday, I went to see Rend Collective play live. It was planned to be just a fun, small way to celebrate my birthday. I did not expect to end up making any lifelong commitments!
Rend Collective took some time out of their set to talk about Compassion UK. A Christian organisation with a heart for eliminating children from poverty. The organisation encourage people to sponsor a child for £25 a month. The monies will help that child afford educational opportunities, including literacy and life skills training; health care and health education; and, if required, supplemental nutrition. The children who are sponsored are the most neediest and come from all different walks of life. Once you have sponsored a child, you get to build a relationship and get to know more about the child by writing them letters.
I was deeply motivated to sponsor a child after the talk and decided to quit my gym, and put the money I spent on my membership towards providing a better life to a young girl in Nicaragua.
2 years on and I do not regret the commitment I made to my sponsor child. As a young person, it is so easy to make excuses about not having money, although we some how manage to spend so much on silly, pointless, self orientated things.
I am greatly passionate about this organisation and how they are changing the lives of so many young children all over the world. It is incredibly important that every child reaches their full potential and unfortunately not every body has a start in life that enables them to easily do so. It is organisations and charities like Compassion UK that enable children to build up the knowledge and skills to make a difference in the world and their communities.
I hope you feel encouraged to make a commitment to a cause that is close to your heart and will help positively change the world!
From Wednesday 6.30pm till Thursday night. London tube stations were vacant after members of Transfer for London, trade union TSSA held a tube strike because they are not happy with the pay rise offered to them and they are also not happy with the conditions they will have to abide to once some of the tube services turn 24hours.
As a student and someone who has not held a work position in the professional world as of yet. I felt nothing but joy for those from the above companies. (I am saying this because my working friends belittled me for not understanding how frustrating the situation was- I personally think they were jealous).
They called the organisations greedy, comparing their current wages to their own current positions and using examples of those who are on a much lower starting pay than them, and they do have a point. But, if workers are not happy with their situation – no matter what it is. It is important that their voice is heard.
I feel like society has developed a ‘this is how it is’ attitude. The situations we are in cannot be changed, might as well suck it up and get used to it.
The fact that there are still unions out there that stand up for their workers and will do what they can to give their workers exactly what they want should be exciting and celebrated.
With the depletion of the NHS, the silence of the teachers union and other national bodies that the public depend on. It is encouraging to see the tube unions standing up for their workers and I hope that this attitude will encourage people of other professions to find a way to for their voices to be heard, not necessarily for their wages to be increased (there are probably situations where this is needed) but to better society.
I am personally not happy with the Charity Commission budget cuts that took place late last year. £31.7m to £24.4m as this will effect their ability to carry out their aims – which is laid out in the Charities Act 2011. I think if there was a large enough out roar about it, something could have been changed. Even now something can be changed if we all get together and shout about the things we are passionate about.
Not a question I am asked about a lot but something I love to talk about at any given moment…
I could eat brunch for breakfast, lunch and dinner if that were possible.
One of the best things about living in London is the opportunity to visit different spots to dine, I must admit that I have been very tight on where and when I brunch due to living on student budget. (I am a lover of cooking meals – brunches are a speciality). But a few places I have checked out and loved are: