2015 relflections

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What a year 2015 has been. I have finished, but not completed law school! Completed my first legal job, and was offered my second legal role just before Christmas. I have lost a few friends and also made such an awesome group of friends. I have learnt the importance of community and fellowship both at my church and with my family. I have lived in three different parts of London, Bethnal Green, Bow and now Plumstead. I have been able to celebrate 5 years of dating the most wonderful man and been able to call myself “auntie” to two gorgeous babies and a sphinx cat. I have travelled to Italy Rome and Naples, two places I have never been before! I have overcome challenges and obstacles thrown at me this year by Gods grace and love – which I have come to know in a whole new way this year. I am so excited and hopeful for all that 2016 holds and so thankful to God for all that has happened and all that is yet to come!!

 

What are we living for?

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What are we living for?

Is it for man’s praise, or approval?

Is it for that dream job, or that dream house or that dream guy?

It is so easy to get caught up in what the world expects us to be.

To the extent that you end up going through the motions, ticking the boxes and jumping the hoops.

Relationship with God changes our perspective of living.

Relationship with God is the constant reminder that there is so much more to life than what society tell us.

Relationship with God gives us peace that even if we are not where we have planned to be, God is good.

Relationship with God means that even in the midst of what feels like going through motions, or jumping hoops. We can still be thankful and worship a wonderful saviour.

Relationship with God not only changes our perspective of what we are living for.

Relationship with God is living.

Happiness

As somebody who has struggled with the concept of happiness, and overcome a real rainy, low season this past year. This might be my new favourite quote, stumbled across it whilst browsing the web.

Don’t get me wrong, I think happiness is great. I live for the moments where I am smiling, chatting and laughing. But I do not think happiness is the be all and end all, at the end of the day, it is an emotion and just like the author of this quote states, we only grow through pain and sorrow.

I like the idea of focusing on wholeness, next time I feel down or upset, I can focus on the growth that develops from the fleeting feeling.

I actually attack the concept of happiness. The idea that—I don’t mind people being happy—but the idea that everything we do is part of the pursuit of happiness seems to me a really dangerous idea and has led to a contemporary disease in Western society, which is fear of sadness. It’s a really odd thing that we’re now seeing people saying “write down three things that made you happy today before you go to sleep” and “cheer up” and “happiness is our birthright” and so on. We’re kind of teaching our kids that happiness is the default position. It’s rubbish. Wholeness is what we ought to be striving for and part of that is sadness, disappointment, frustration, failure; all of those things which make us who we are. Happiness and victory and fulfillment are nice little things that also happen to us, but they don’t teach us much. Everyone says we grow through pain and then as soon as they experience pain they say, “Quick! Move on! Cheer up!” I’d like just for a year to have a moratorium on the word “happiness” and to replace it with the word “wholeness.” Ask yourself, “Is this contributing to my wholeness?” and if you’re having a bad day, it is.

Hugh MacKay, author of The Good Life