As somebody who has struggled with the concept of happiness, and overcome a real rainy, low season this past year. This might be my new favourite quote, stumbled across it whilst browsing the web.
Don’t get me wrong, I think happiness is great. I live for the moments where I am smiling, chatting and laughing. But I do not think happiness is the be all and end all, at the end of the day, it is an emotion and just like the author of this quote states, we only grow through pain and sorrow.
I like the idea of focusing on wholeness, next time I feel down or upset, I can focus on the growth that develops from the fleeting feeling.
I actually attack the concept of happiness. The idea that—I don’t mind people being happy—but the idea that everything we do is part of the pursuit of happiness seems to me a really dangerous idea and has led to a contemporary disease in Western society, which is fear of sadness. It’s a really odd thing that we’re now seeing people saying “write down three things that made you happy today before you go to sleep” and “cheer up” and “happiness is our birthright” and so on. We’re kind of teaching our kids that happiness is the default position. It’s rubbish. Wholeness is what we ought to be striving for and part of that is sadness, disappointment, frustration, failure; all of those things which make us who we are. Happiness and victory and fulfillment are nice little things that also happen to us, but they don’t teach us much. Everyone says we grow through pain and then as soon as they experience pain they say, “Quick! Move on! Cheer up!” I’d like just for a year to have a moratorium on the word “happiness” and to replace it with the word “wholeness.” Ask yourself, “Is this contributing to my wholeness?” and if you’re having a bad day, it is.
Hugh MacKay, author of The Good Life
On my 20th Birthday, I went to see Rend Collective play live. It was planned to be just a fun, small way to celebrate my birthday. I did not expect to end up making any lifelong commitments!
Rend Collective took some time out of their set to talk about Compassion UK. A Christian organisation with a heart for eliminating children from poverty. The organisation encourage people to sponsor a child for £25 a month. The monies will help that child afford educational opportunities, including literacy and life skills training; health care and health education; and, if required, supplemental nutrition. The children who are sponsored are the most neediest and come from all different walks of life. Once you have sponsored a child, you get to build a relationship and get to know more about the child by writing them letters.
I was deeply motivated to sponsor a child after the talk and decided to quit my gym, and put the money I spent on my membership towards providing a better life to a young girl in Nicaragua.
2 years on and I do not regret the commitment I made to my sponsor child. As a young person, it is so easy to make excuses about not having money, although we some how manage to spend so much on silly, pointless, self orientated things.
I am greatly passionate about this organisation and how they are changing the lives of so many young children all over the world. It is incredibly important that every child reaches their full potential and unfortunately not every body has a start in life that enables them to easily do so. It is organisations and charities like Compassion UK that enable children to build up the knowledge and skills to make a difference in the world and their communities.
I hope you feel encouraged to make a commitment to a cause that is close to your heart and will help positively change the world!
The Crunchy Rolling Life